Am I fooling myself ?
Its the only requirement for MEMBERSHIP. Taking it seriously,..... is how you get and stay sober. So what are you saying? That you arent fully accepting that you are powerless over alcohol? Without that,....you dont really HAVE a desire to stop drinking. AA works for anyone who does it right,...and MEANS it. Participate. Get a sponsor. Do service work. Help other alcoholics. Attend 90 meetings in 90 days. Dont pass at the tables. Listen to the others when they are talking. DO THE STEPS. Take them seriously. Make the phone calls. You do all this,...and you will have success. Skimp on any of it,....and you have a huge chance of failure.
I am keeping an open mind to all suggestions and I will continue on with my sobriety now...OK?
hi,
Congrats on your 30 days! That is a huge step.
I have to respectfully disagree with the idea of making any drastic steps on your marriage (as in, ending it) so early in your sobriety. Right now I would keep focused on staying sober. The world will look a lot different several months even a year from now. I have always heard the advice not to make ANY major life changes before 1 year sobriety. I got a dog before my one year and even THAT was a decision that would have been better made later in sobriety!
What didn't you like about the women's meeting?
Congrats on your 30 days! That is a huge step.
I have to respectfully disagree with the idea of making any drastic steps on your marriage (as in, ending it) so early in your sobriety. Right now I would keep focused on staying sober. The world will look a lot different several months even a year from now. I have always heard the advice not to make ANY major life changes before 1 year sobriety. I got a dog before my one year and even THAT was a decision that would have been better made later in sobriety!
What didn't you like about the women's meeting?
With regards to the marital situation... thank you for your advice. Unfortunately, if he decides it's over, there's not much for me to do about that except to accept it. Right now... as of today we're doing better than the past week was. He's here, we're talking as opposed to fighting and it's OK, at least for today.
The women's meeting just wasn't my cuppa tea, or coffee. Feeling comfortable, the ages of the group, the "rules" that they have for their group. I don't know... a bunch of stuff. I do like some of the other meetings that I've been to though.
Gypsy, i think you are doing great, seek and
yee shall find your answers.I try to keep an
open mind too, for; the mind is like an
umbrella, it only works when it is open.
I wish you the very best.
yee shall find your answers.I try to keep an
open mind too, for; the mind is like an
umbrella, it only works when it is open.
I wish you the very best.
Thanks Hope...
Someone at my group decribed my attitude regarding my recovery as a "search and destroy mission".
I don't know about that... but so far I feel it's working for me. I'm not drinking and I'll have 5 weeks tomorrow.
Someone at my group decribed my attitude regarding my recovery as a "search and destroy mission".
I don't know about that... but so far I feel it's working for me. I'm not drinking and I'll have 5 weeks tomorrow.
Definition Of Powerless
I cant drink, and I cant not drink…that’s a dilemma…lack of power…until I recognize this truth about me, there is no need for a higher power…Once I admit this truth…then i become willing to discover this higher power through the remaining eleven steps. And that power will do for me what I can NOT do for myself…and the work goes on, because I will drink again if I stop…powerless over alcohol.....
Garden variety drunk
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Laramie, Wy
Posts: 13
You asked if you're fooling yourself. Hey, if drinking has been destructive for you, and you're free from the desire for a drink, that's sanity. Fooling yourself would be doing the same thing as before and expecting different results.
If you find the insanity of the drink obsession returning despite your efforts, then there's a solution. If you don't, then you already have a solution!
Problem Solver.
the "search and destroy mission" a problem solving mission. For if
you are planning steps and putting into action your plans to solve a
problem, there kind of isn't a problem anymore. You are to busy
to dwell on the problem, I hope this makes sense to you, if not
let me know and I will try to reword it.
P.S. congratulations early on your 5th week of sobriety. This was
my 20th day, and I hope I am always trying to catch up to you. That
would mean you didn't relapse. Later,
Last edited by hope3; 12-18-2006 at 03:56 PM. Reason: Days
Thank-you Mick
Hi Mick, and thank-you. You are kicking behind yourself,
I've been reading some of your post and congrats on your
dedication to a happier and healthier life. See you around the
boards, Best wishes Sharon L. alias Hope3.
I've been reading some of your post and congrats on your
dedication to a happier and healthier life. See you around the
boards, Best wishes Sharon L. alias Hope3.
I'm being as strong as I can mick... thanks . Hubby and I are getting along... problems aren't gone... but at least it's back to being able to speak to each other. I didn't drink over it, and I can safely say I won't use this as an excuse to go back to being f'd up.
gypsy glad to hear things are going better, being sober makes dealing with things both good and bad so much easier for me as I am sure you are finding out as well. gypsy I occasionaly do a little inventory to help me stay sober, I grab a sheet of paper and pen then proceed write down every good thing in life that drinking has led me to in one column, in the other column I write down every good thing that has happened to me sober.
I have yet if I am being totally honest with myself found one good thing that drinking has given me...... I am not talking about getting a buzz as a good thing, because over the years the buzz was lost.
I have also noticed another funny thing being sober, I some how keep finding money in my wallet that normally wasn't there at the end of the week when I was drinking!
I have yet if I am being totally honest with myself found one good thing that drinking has given me...... I am not talking about getting a buzz as a good thing, because over the years the buzz was lost.
I have also noticed another funny thing being sober, I some how keep finding money in my wallet that normally wasn't there at the end of the week when I was drinking!
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