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Company Events
I work for a consulting firm, and am pretty much expected to appear at certain events that are occuring within the next few weeks. Problem: No one at work is aware of my addiction issues (in regards to both alcohol and drugs) and I don't feel omfortable being around people who I would previously try to outdrink and party with. Is it reasonable to bow out of these events or should I just bite the bullet and put my sobriety to the test?
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Thanks Carol 
Finally went through detox and am in day treatment right now. Had a horrible relapse last weekend but am back on track and on a waiting list for a 21 day residential treatment.
I guess i'm going to bow out of these events I simply don't feel I'm in a position to situate myself around alcohol
Finally went through detox and am in day treatment right now. Had a horrible relapse last weekend but am back on track and on a waiting list for a 21 day residential treatment. I guess i'm going to bow out of these events I simply don't feel I'm in a position to situate myself around alcohol
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I have one of those events coming up this weekend. Staying at a resort for the evening, days spent by the pool, going out for dinner. There'll be lots of liquor, and I used to participate heavily in the drinking, but this will be the second year that I've abstained. My date from the program backed out, but one of my co-workers is in AA, so we'll be looking out for each other.
I'm able to be social with my glass of soda water, but as soon as I start to feel uncomfortable it's time for me to leave. So far, it hasn't been a big deal.
I'm able to be social with my glass of soda water, but as soon as I start to feel uncomfortable it's time for me to leave. So far, it hasn't been a big deal.
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Hi Tanya,
Its good to see you back again. I think you already know the right thing for you. If you are nervous and uncomfortable, do not ignore that voice inside of you.
People are not ever "required" to attend social functions unless they are the guest of honor or are hosting an event. In early sobriety and early recovery say, like the first year, (or more), it is wise to really commit to making healthy, long-lasting changes in all areas of your life.
For me, I bowed out of social drinking situations 100%. I bowed out of unnescessary dinner parties and even dating, because sobriety was (is still) most important.
For me, I chose to attend evening meetings of AA because evening was the time that I was preprogrammed to want to drink.
Soon, my AA meetings led to developing a few new friendships. Now, I have a group of people with whom I would enjoy going out....and don't have to concern myself with the nervousness around drinkers.
But i totally understand that you are not me, and that you are in a different pair of shoes...It may be important to you to go to the office parties.
Whatever you decide, we are here to support you all day/night every day/night.
Come in and let us know how it goes... Good luck!
Its good to see you back again. I think you already know the right thing for you. If you are nervous and uncomfortable, do not ignore that voice inside of you.
People are not ever "required" to attend social functions unless they are the guest of honor or are hosting an event. In early sobriety and early recovery say, like the first year, (or more), it is wise to really commit to making healthy, long-lasting changes in all areas of your life.
For me, I bowed out of social drinking situations 100%. I bowed out of unnescessary dinner parties and even dating, because sobriety was (is still) most important.
For me, I chose to attend evening meetings of AA because evening was the time that I was preprogrammed to want to drink.
Soon, my AA meetings led to developing a few new friendships. Now, I have a group of people with whom I would enjoy going out....and don't have to concern myself with the nervousness around drinkers.
But i totally understand that you are not me, and that you are in a different pair of shoes...It may be important to you to go to the office parties.
Whatever you decide, we are here to support you all day/night every day/night.
Come in and let us know how it goes... Good luck!
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