calliegirl

I have an 11 year old stepson that my stepson and I have recently got temporary custody of because of cdv's and alcohol in his mother's home. We have a case worker that we can call if we ever have a problem. The thing is, is my husband told the case worker today that his son's mother was still drinking even though she is going to court ordered therapy, and the case worker told him that it is ok for her to have a few beers because she can't just quit cold turkey. I just wanted to know if anyone had some advice on this. should she be able to still be drinking even though a judge has taken her child away for the second time and that alcohol is the cause of all of it? I'm worried that my stepson will be sent back to his mother's house with nothing being resolved because she has fibbed her way through the therapy. She did it last time and we are here again, only this time she hit my stepson. I don't want something worse to happen next time. My initial question is can you quit cold turkey or do you have to keep drinking to quit? Please respond. Thanks

TorontoGuy28

Depending on how long she has been drinking for, it might be unsafe to quit cold turkey and without medical supervision...

Ngokpa

Going cold turkey without medical supervision is dangerous for some. But that means she needs a detox. Quitting by cutting down is an exercise in futility.

calliegirl

What do you mean by " an exercise in futility?"

CarolD

Welcome to SR!

Yes some alcoholics do go cold turkey
some are able to wean themselves off.
A medically supervised de tox is ideal.

As far as I know..there are no facts as to
numbers who successfully use any method.

How wonderful of you and your husband to
protect the boy from a bad situation!

My very best to the 3 of you during this
horrific time.

calliegirl

Thank you Carol. I also have 2 other children that are in our home. My son is also 11 and our daughter that we have together will be 2 in january.
I am trying to stay very helpful to her through this whole thing, because I have a brother that is an alcoholic and drug addict. He is now in prison. But it is hard to try to think about her feelings when my main concern is my stepson. He told me that if he is allowed to lie with his mother again that it will only happen again. That breaks my heart. I just don't want her to say that she is not drinking when she really is, and if she can't quit cold turkey then she needs to do like you guys said...detox or some form of medical treatment. I think she is just using it as an excuse. Sorry if I come across as cold hearted. Thank you!!

CarolD

You first concern should be the boy..not the drunk.

And that is exactly what you are doing!

Check out..

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/

Mega Hugs to all 5 of you.