What to expect at your First Meeting AA Meeting
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What to expect at your First Meeting AA Meeting
What to expect at your First Meeting AA Meeting
What can you expect when you attend a 12-step or Alcoholics Anonymous meeting? If you've never attended one, you likely have fears and reservations. Often, your only exposure is through what you've seen depicted in movies or television shows. What is the reality?
Common Myths
These things you may think happen at 12-step meetings, but might be myths rather than typical occurrences:
You will be surrounded by "helpful" alcoholics.
You have to stand up and say, "I am an alcoholic."
You have to tell all of your secrets surrounding my addiction to alcohol.
You have to participate in group hugs.
You have to pray.
You are joining a cult.
You might see people you recognize.
What is the reality for most meetings? The meeting might be held in a building connected with a church or a community center. You arrive to find most of the people you see are there for the Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Outside of the room are a few folks making coffee and talking.
Inside the room, there are people sitting here and there; some talking together, some sitting alone. You take a seat by the door (just in case you want to make a quick exit) and as people passed by, some say hello, some nod, some stop and introduce themselves, and some keep to themselves.
After about 10 minutes, there are 50 people who are seated in a semi-circle of chairs. One person sits in the middle of the circle. They are the meeting chairperson for that particular day.
How It Works
The meeting begins with the chairperson reading the AA Preamble, then leading a group prayer, the Serenity Prayer (short version).1 Afterward, different members of the meeting read sections of AA literature, including the "Alcoholics Anonymous" book (commonly referred to as "The Big Book")2 and "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions."3
The chairperson asks if there are any newcomers, or first-timers, attending the meeting who would like to introduce themselves by their first name. A few raise their hands. You may or may not be one of them as this is an option and not mandatory.
Step Study Meeting
The meeting might be a Step Meeting. The chairperson announces which step they would be discussing. After the step chapter is read from the book, "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions," the chairperson asks if anyone had any experience, strength, or hope relating to the step that they would like to share.
Sharing
During the meeting, people simply begin talking. Each starts off by introducing themselves as, "Hello, my name is (first name) and I'm an alcoholic." Just as in the movies, everyone responds with, "Hello (first name)!" After they complete their "story" everyone in the room thanks them. Then the next person can speak up.
After everyone completes sharing, the chairperson asks if there are any AA-related announcements. In some cases, they announce that it is time for the Lord's Prayer, and everyone stands in a large circle, holding hands, and recites the prayer. You do not have to participate in the prayer. Once the prayer is over, the meeting ends.
After the Meeting
People gather, talking, and there is a social air now to the meeting. Some may introduce themselves to you and may ask questions. You are free to leave if you don't want to socialize.
Other Formats
Different meetings have different ways of doing things but, for the most part, they are run in a similar manner. That said, there are a large variety of meetings for different types of people, whether business executives, women, young adults, pilots, or medical professionals, and each will have its own feel.
No two meetings are alike. Some will be large while others are small; some are connected to a treatment program, and some meetings will feel more religious than others.
In some meetings, people are randomly called on, the thinking is, that it prevents the same people from constantly sharing, overriding the more shy, quieter people. In other meetings, at the end of the prayer, everyone may say a popular AA slogan, such as, "meeting makers make it."
Some meetings are purely discussion meetings where the topic is random and more derived by an interest that one of the members may have. Speaker's meetings feature a person chosen to talk about their experience, strength, and hope in regard to their recovery.
One member, Barb M., relates that the thing she was most relieved about was the non-imposing feel that she got when she first began attending meetings.
"No one bombarded me with his or her religious slogans, no one pestered me to hold hands and pray, no one cared if I sat in the back or sat in the front, drank coffee or didn't drink coffee, helped clean up or ran off before the meeting ended." You may indeed run into someone you recognize or who recognizes you.
The only set rules are those of common respect which may include:
Try to be on time.
No smoking.
No cross-talk during shares
Have court vouchers signed at the end of a meeting
The Helping Hand of AA
If you aren't sure if you are an alcoholic, find an "open" meeting to attend in your area. Many non-alcoholics may attend these and no one assumes because you are there that you are alcoholic.
Barb M. says she waited for many meetings before making the decision to introduce herself as an alcoholic and to accept her first chip.
One common practice is that when you introduce yourself to the group as a newcomer and an alcoholic, you will receive a meeting schedule book with the names and numbers of people who you can call if you feel the need to drink and need help.
People who put their numbers in this book do so because they really do want to help. It isn't required of anyone to do so but it keeps with the tradition of AA that when alcoholic calls for help, the helping hand of AA will be there.
By Buddy T
Buddy T is an anonymous writer and founding member of the Online Al-Anon Outreach Committee with decades of experience writing about alcoholism.
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-ca...-meeting-63409
What can you expect when you attend a 12-step or Alcoholics Anonymous meeting? If you've never attended one, you likely have fears and reservations. Often, your only exposure is through what you've seen depicted in movies or television shows. What is the reality?
Common Myths
These things you may think happen at 12-step meetings, but might be myths rather than typical occurrences:
You will be surrounded by "helpful" alcoholics.
You have to stand up and say, "I am an alcoholic."
You have to tell all of your secrets surrounding my addiction to alcohol.
You have to participate in group hugs.
You have to pray.
You are joining a cult.
You might see people you recognize.
What is the reality for most meetings? The meeting might be held in a building connected with a church or a community center. You arrive to find most of the people you see are there for the Alcoholics Anonymous meeting. Outside of the room are a few folks making coffee and talking.
Inside the room, there are people sitting here and there; some talking together, some sitting alone. You take a seat by the door (just in case you want to make a quick exit) and as people passed by, some say hello, some nod, some stop and introduce themselves, and some keep to themselves.
After about 10 minutes, there are 50 people who are seated in a semi-circle of chairs. One person sits in the middle of the circle. They are the meeting chairperson for that particular day.
How It Works
The meeting begins with the chairperson reading the AA Preamble, then leading a group prayer, the Serenity Prayer (short version).1 Afterward, different members of the meeting read sections of AA literature, including the "Alcoholics Anonymous" book (commonly referred to as "The Big Book")2 and "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions."3
The chairperson asks if there are any newcomers, or first-timers, attending the meeting who would like to introduce themselves by their first name. A few raise their hands. You may or may not be one of them as this is an option and not mandatory.
Step Study Meeting
The meeting might be a Step Meeting. The chairperson announces which step they would be discussing. After the step chapter is read from the book, "Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions," the chairperson asks if anyone had any experience, strength, or hope relating to the step that they would like to share.
Sharing
During the meeting, people simply begin talking. Each starts off by introducing themselves as, "Hello, my name is (first name) and I'm an alcoholic." Just as in the movies, everyone responds with, "Hello (first name)!" After they complete their "story" everyone in the room thanks them. Then the next person can speak up.
After everyone completes sharing, the chairperson asks if there are any AA-related announcements. In some cases, they announce that it is time for the Lord's Prayer, and everyone stands in a large circle, holding hands, and recites the prayer. You do not have to participate in the prayer. Once the prayer is over, the meeting ends.
After the Meeting
People gather, talking, and there is a social air now to the meeting. Some may introduce themselves to you and may ask questions. You are free to leave if you don't want to socialize.
Other Formats
Different meetings have different ways of doing things but, for the most part, they are run in a similar manner. That said, there are a large variety of meetings for different types of people, whether business executives, women, young adults, pilots, or medical professionals, and each will have its own feel.
No two meetings are alike. Some will be large while others are small; some are connected to a treatment program, and some meetings will feel more religious than others.
In some meetings, people are randomly called on, the thinking is, that it prevents the same people from constantly sharing, overriding the more shy, quieter people. In other meetings, at the end of the prayer, everyone may say a popular AA slogan, such as, "meeting makers make it."
Some meetings are purely discussion meetings where the topic is random and more derived by an interest that one of the members may have. Speaker's meetings feature a person chosen to talk about their experience, strength, and hope in regard to their recovery.
One member, Barb M., relates that the thing she was most relieved about was the non-imposing feel that she got when she first began attending meetings.
"No one bombarded me with his or her religious slogans, no one pestered me to hold hands and pray, no one cared if I sat in the back or sat in the front, drank coffee or didn't drink coffee, helped clean up or ran off before the meeting ended." You may indeed run into someone you recognize or who recognizes you.
The only set rules are those of common respect which may include:
Try to be on time.
No smoking.
No cross-talk during shares
Have court vouchers signed at the end of a meeting
The Helping Hand of AA
If you aren't sure if you are an alcoholic, find an "open" meeting to attend in your area. Many non-alcoholics may attend these and no one assumes because you are there that you are alcoholic.
Barb M. says she waited for many meetings before making the decision to introduce herself as an alcoholic and to accept her first chip.
One common practice is that when you introduce yourself to the group as a newcomer and an alcoholic, you will receive a meeting schedule book with the names and numbers of people who you can call if you feel the need to drink and need help.
People who put their numbers in this book do so because they really do want to help. It isn't required of anyone to do so but it keeps with the tradition of AA that when alcoholic calls for help, the helping hand of AA will be there.
By Buddy T
Buddy T is an anonymous writer and founding member of the Online Al-Anon Outreach Committee with decades of experience writing about alcoholism.
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-ca...-meeting-63409
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As someone who attends hundreds of AA meetings a year I think it is fair to say that when a newcomer shows at a meeting for the first time there is a fair chance that they will get a bit more attention than desired. Some of the old timers just can't help themselves. I even recall a meeting where the practice is to immediately change the meeting format to a step 1 meeting if someone identifies as a newcomer at the beginning of the meeting. So yes being a newcomer is not always easy. But it sure beats being drunk.
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