More stupid alcoholic tricks
I walked away from the toxic people in my life--parents and siblings. But my kids think they're wonderful and keep going there (the adults) or asking to (the minors).
One fun trick I get is being blamed for things I knew nothing about.
For instance, a son recently told me my AF wishes I would come to family gatherings. The hint was clear--I'm the one holding out, refusing, standing in the way of family peace.
I pointed out that AF has not told me that. That in fact his only words to me for the last 7 or 8 years have been very ugly.
He also told me AF was actually the one who bought the gift he (my son) gave me 6 months ago. Grandpa wanted me to have it, DS said, but didn't want me to know it was from him. Supposedly, I guess because I'm so resentful and holding such a grudge I wouldn't accept it from him? So they had no choice but to lie to me?
DS's hint was again clear: Grandpa is so generous to me and I don't even appreciate it.
I again pointed out that I can't be held accountable for not appreciating Grandpa's generosity when nobody told me.
No real question here. Just venting among those who understand. My kids are out tonight supposedly just going out together but years of shaded truth like this leave me suspecting they're out with their grandparents.
It never ends. Sorry to say, but as hard as I've tried to be the place it stops, I see how my parents work their way into my kids' lives (they're also giving them very, very large sums of money--making it well worth their while to stay in the grandparents' good graces) and play games like this with my kids' perception and also knowingly take part in, and therefore encourage the way my kids will lie to me. And I wonder if it will somehow carry into my grandchildren's generation, too.