Both my parents were alcoholics
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Both my parents were alcoholics
I am a child of alcoholics my mum died with over 25+ years of sobriety my dad still drinks he doesn't live with me & we hardly talk because of how toxic he is when he is drunk even sober he doesn't know how to talk to his children with care or respect
What does it mean that I'm a child of alcoholics ?
What does it mean that I'm a child of alcoholics ?
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Hey SW, welcome to this part of the Forum!! 
Fantastic that your mum found Sobriety, but feel for you with regards your dad!!
For me a child of an alcoholic brings a whole other dynamic to life, we're then in the next category of being a part of both sides of the fence, my dad was an alcoholic, but I then had to deal with my own alcoholism.
Dealing with alcoholic parents is not easy, but then there is the whole affect on childhood that many would say can create issues later in life and how to deal with that part of our life.
I had to deal with a lot of things, my dad in my 20s was drinking heavily and I really wanted a father/son relationship, but he eventually died of alcohol and that caused a whole other area of life to deal with!!
This is a great place for learning and support regardless!!
Fantastic that your mum found Sobriety, but feel for you with regards your dad!!
For me a child of an alcoholic brings a whole other dynamic to life, we're then in the next category of being a part of both sides of the fence, my dad was an alcoholic, but I then had to deal with my own alcoholism.
Dealing with alcoholic parents is not easy, but then there is the whole affect on childhood that many would say can create issues later in life and how to deal with that part of our life.
I had to deal with a lot of things, my dad in my 20s was drinking heavily and I really wanted a father/son relationship, but he eventually died of alcohol and that caused a whole other area of life to deal with!!
This is a great place for learning and support regardless!!
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Welcome to our corner.
For me it means that I didn't have parents that knew how to raise me. It means that I was damaged and that I had to raise myself. It means that I have gone down a long and lonely road to come to a healing that can let me trust myself and not need them. It means that I still have issues but I know them now and I can drive the car, instead of the car careening off in a ditch. I hope you can find what it means to you to be the adult child of an alcoholic and find peace and success. We are here to be in your corner.
For me it means that I didn't have parents that knew how to raise me. It means that I was damaged and that I had to raise myself. It means that I have gone down a long and lonely road to come to a healing that can let me trust myself and not need them. It means that I still have issues but I know them now and I can drive the car, instead of the car careening off in a ditch. I hope you can find what it means to you to be the adult child of an alcoholic and find peace and success. We are here to be in your corner.
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Indeed...what does mean?!
I can relate to some of the traits that are supposedly linked to growing up with Alcoholic parents or other kinds of Dysfunction. I think it's certainly My Truth
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Adult Children Of Alcoholics/ ACAs ACOAs ACODFs Blog: Beyond The "Laundry List"
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I can relate to some of the traits that are supposedly linked to growing up with Alcoholic parents or other kinds of Dysfunction. I think it's certainly My Truth
Adult Children of Alcoholics
Adult Children Of Alcoholics/ ACAs ACOAs ACODFs Blog: Beyond The "Laundry List"
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So good to see you here. I love this forum. For me having an alcoholic father and mentally ill mother meant I developed a whole boatload of techniques to survive as a child but did nothing for me as an adult. I am also a recovering alcoholic. Tackling my childhood dysfunctions has been the key to my lasting sobriety. I never knew a peace like this could reside inside me until I embarked on this healing journey.
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Mine is is similar to happybeingme.
Finding my own truth is a journey of healing I am making my life and slowly I am learning about me and my mind and why I do/did the things I have.
It's fascinating and a much better roller coaster than the one I had when drinking!
I found Toxic Parents to be a useful book in the field of dysfunctional families.
Great stickies and a wealth of information here at SR.
Thanks for the share & peace to you SW
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
Finding my own truth is a journey of healing I am making my life and slowly I am learning about me and my mind and why I do/did the things I have.
It's fascinating and a much better roller coaster than the one I had when drinking!
I found Toxic Parents to be a useful book in the field of dysfunctional families.
Great stickies and a wealth of information here at SR.
Thanks for the share & peace to you SW
Driving my wagon of hope through beautiful views on my road to myself
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