when it rains it pours
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when it rains it pours
I found out yesterday that the man I am set to marry in June was flirting with, kissed and was texting/emailing a woman he worked with.
WTF is what I want to yell at God right now. As if dealing with my mom's death now I have to figure out if we can work through this as a family and continue to walk down the aisle in June or if this is a break it moment for us.
I just don't know what to do. I feel so lost and alone, so confused. How he could do this...let alone carry on for a month with this woman only two months before our wedding.
I just don't know what to do.
One good thing, I have finally found a lawyer and my mom's estate will be taken care of. one small weight lifted off of me, while a another more emotionally crushing one falls down.
WTF is what I want to yell at God right now. As if dealing with my mom's death now I have to figure out if we can work through this as a family and continue to walk down the aisle in June or if this is a break it moment for us.
I just don't know what to do. I feel so lost and alone, so confused. How he could do this...let alone carry on for a month with this woman only two months before our wedding.
I just don't know what to do.
One good thing, I have finally found a lawyer and my mom's estate will be taken care of. one small weight lifted off of me, while a another more emotionally crushing one falls down.
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Berry, I am so sorry for all that is being heaped on to you. Please know that the clouds always pass. If I were in your shoes, I would heavily consider postponing the wedding. You have a lot of emotional healing and soul searching to do with the death of your mother and it seems that you have had this relationship for quite some time without a marriage certificate. I heard once that rejection often is God's protection. Take care. I am praying for you and sending you peace and good juju ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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Berry, I am so sorry you have this new situation to deal with. I am with DD on this. It would probably be a good idea to postpone the wedding. Trying to work on your issues with your fiancee while also being in mourning is overwhelming. Take it slow.
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Originally Posted by berryfines 
I just don't know what to do. I feel so lost and alone, so confused. How he could do this...let alone carry on for a month with this woman only two months before our wedding.
I just don't know what to do.
I just don't know what to do.
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Berry, I'm just so sorry that this has been added to your emotional chaos! I do agree with tromboneliness that it is better to find out now than, say, 1 year from now.
The decision on whether to proceed with the wedding or not is entirely up to you. But if it were me, I would certainly consider this an indication that I should at minimum postpone the wedding. My now ex-husband had an affair, and it really is the most painful, intimate form of betrayal I have ever experienced.
Sending prayers and support!
The decision on whether to proceed with the wedding or not is entirely up to you. But if it were me, I would certainly consider this an indication that I should at minimum postpone the wedding. My now ex-husband had an affair, and it really is the most painful, intimate form of betrayal I have ever experienced.
Sending prayers and support!
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Sometimes if not many times God
gives us the answers right before
us even tho we are not prepared
for them.
I oftened cried to the heavens why
I was made to suffer so much back
in the day over many situations not
in my control or out of my hands.
My faith that I was taught and brought
up in has never left me, but in my 24yrs
sobriety my spirituality has deepened
and has grown stronger to realize that
my HP - Higher Power or God of my
understanding has ALWAYS been right
here with me thru all my trials and tribulations,
thru my ups and down, thru my joys and sorrows.
As long as I continue to let Him guide
me in all areas of my life then He will
continue to take care of me, even if
I don't understand.
What I ask for may not be exactly what
I need in my life. What I want may not
be what is healthy for me.
The answers are right in front of us
even if we turn a blind eye to it or don't
accept it. The answers are a blessing
sometimes in disguise.
This situstion as sad and unexpectant
as it is is an experience you will grow
from and be stronger because of it.
Just a few thoughts I wanted to share
with you.
gives us the answers right before
us even tho we are not prepared
for them.
I oftened cried to the heavens why
I was made to suffer so much back
in the day over many situations not
in my control or out of my hands.
My faith that I was taught and brought
up in has never left me, but in my 24yrs
sobriety my spirituality has deepened
and has grown stronger to realize that
my HP - Higher Power or God of my
understanding has ALWAYS been right
here with me thru all my trials and tribulations,
thru my ups and down, thru my joys and sorrows.
As long as I continue to let Him guide
me in all areas of my life then He will
continue to take care of me, even if
I don't understand.
What I ask for may not be exactly what
I need in my life. What I want may not
be what is healthy for me.
The answers are right in front of us
even if we turn a blind eye to it or don't
accept it. The answers are a blessing
sometimes in disguise.
This situstion as sad and unexpectant
as it is is an experience you will grow
from and be stronger because of it.
Just a few thoughts I wanted to share
with you.
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