Anyone else have difficulties with impostor syndrome?
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Anyone else have difficulties with impostor syndrome?
I do. I have been in my present job now about two years--and I still experience it. I should add I've experienced it at times before this job.
My Al Anon sponsor says things like, "They hired you--they must have thought you were qualified," and so on. I hear her, but my gut feels otherwise.
Your experience, strength, and hope?
My Al Anon sponsor says things like, "They hired you--they must have thought you were qualified," and so on. I hear her, but my gut feels otherwise.
Your experience, strength, and hope?
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First off, you have an excellent sponsor.
I know I don't have IS, but I'll go with "crazy hypocrite" - I'm always seeking approval from others for what I think I DO deserve, and then when I get a genuine compliment I have a really hard time believing it. Funny, even when I think I do deserve it, I would rather talk about my "good work" in a logical sense - not have all of the focus on me. Otherwise, I think everyone else will think I'm on a pedestal.
I also have a bad habit of trying to be my ideal version of the perfect _________. Example, I'm a customer service rep for employment, so I'm always trying to fit the mold of what I think the perfect rep should be - happy, polite, honest, etc. I'm also a chair person at my NA meetings, so I'm always trying to be the "perfect NA chairperson".
I'm wondering if you've tried talking to a professional in regards to these issues?
Also, to be perfectly honest - if you weren't qualified, they would've let you go awhile ago. If you've been there for 2 years you're doing something right. When was your last review?
I know I don't have IS, but I'll go with "crazy hypocrite" - I'm always seeking approval from others for what I think I DO deserve, and then when I get a genuine compliment I have a really hard time believing it. Funny, even when I think I do deserve it, I would rather talk about my "good work" in a logical sense - not have all of the focus on me. Otherwise, I think everyone else will think I'm on a pedestal.
I also have a bad habit of trying to be my ideal version of the perfect _________. Example, I'm a customer service rep for employment, so I'm always trying to fit the mold of what I think the perfect rep should be - happy, polite, honest, etc. I'm also a chair person at my NA meetings, so I'm always trying to be the "perfect NA chairperson".
I'm wondering if you've tried talking to a professional in regards to these issues?
Also, to be perfectly honest - if you weren't qualified, they would've let you go awhile ago. If you've been there for 2 years you're doing something right. When was your last review?
I do. I have been in my present job now about two years--and I still experience it. I should add I've experienced it at times before this job.
My Al Anon sponsor says things like, "They hired you--they must have thought you were qualified," and so on. I hear her, but my gut feels otherwise.
Your experience, strength, and hope?
My Al Anon sponsor says things like, "They hired you--they must have thought you were qualified," and so on. I hear her, but my gut feels otherwise.
Your experience, strength, and hope?
I've felt the same way, on a much smaller scale, obviously -- in a big meeting with 30 other reasonably-high-paid consultants (or at least not-cheap consultants), and thinking, I'm the only one in the room who doesn't know what the h3ll he's doing! I've never heard that from a client, though -- they've always liked my work. Maybe they're all idiots?
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