I (still) hate my mother
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A lot of insight, a lot of growth in a short time.
I too missed out on socializing with friends at parties because I had to give up drinking at an early age. Throughout high school I drank to excess, gee I wonder why, and it had to stop. People even resent me being sober but I guess I don't care. Even today a couple friends are arguing over how I should lighten up and take a drink on facebook. Nice. Anyway, do what is best for you, not friends or relatives.
I too missed out on socializing with friends at parties because I had to give up drinking at an early age. Throughout high school I drank to excess, gee I wonder why, and it had to stop. People even resent me being sober but I guess I don't care. Even today a couple friends are arguing over how I should lighten up and take a drink on facebook. Nice. Anyway, do what is best for you, not friends or relatives.
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I just had a sort of mini-epiphany about my unhealthy relationship with alcohol. A project came open for which my company is highly qualified. I have been praying for something exactly like this to come along, and now it has. I asked myself, would you be willing to give up alcohol if the contract would be yours tomorrow, and I actually paused to think about it. As I paused, something arose in me that feels like fear, failure, and loss. I don't think I'd feel the same way, or experience a hint of hesitation, if, say, I were being asked to give up fast food. I mean, I'd probably fear that I might slip up and break my vow at some point, but I would certainly wholeheartedly jump right into that "challenge." Really I don't even drink that much these days, so it would only mean giving it up when I have a few on the weekend or after a brew day with my brewing buddy. Like I mentioned, he was my roommate in Germany -- during that singular time in my life when I finally managed to break free of my mother and begin building a life for myself. So I know that part of my fear is that I would be losing that past and all the beautiful things, places, and feelings that came with it. Still, I know that a person with no alcoholic tendencies would never experience the type of thinking I experienced -- and will continue to experience.
I have many friends that drink but I don't hang with them when they are drinking. It doesn't mean you will loose your friend, though it could happen, but that you may change what you do and when you are with them. Honestly, he may understand your dilema too, people are very well versed about alcoholism these days. Only a loutish brute would let it be a problem in the friendship and so if that is the case better off without them. You won't loose your memories of your happy times in Germany. Nothing can take that.
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I have many friends that drink but I don't hang with them when they are drinking. It doesn't mean you will loose your friend, though it could happen, but that you may change what you do and when you are with them. Honestly, he may understand your dilema too, people are very well versed about alcoholism these days. Only a loutish brute would let it be a problem in the friendship and so if that is the case better off without them. You won't loose your memories of your happy times in Germany. Nothing can take that.
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