bubblepop23

I'm an adult daughter of alcoholic parents. I'm really glad I found SR because it seems to be a step in the right direction for my life. However, I'm really overwhelmed with the amount of information out there. It has dawned on me that my mother and father's diseases have affect me a lot more than I had ever imagined. So, where do I begin my own recovery?

Thanks

Kialua

Hi welcome to our corner. Nice way to start the new year. The first thing I would suggest is to read over the "Stickies" found above the posts here. They have the best gathered information from the people that have travelled the journey you are now starting. Read, read read and then keep reading. Post when you feel like it, and just relax. We understand. Maybe now or later when you feel comfortable you would like to post a brief recap of how your parents drinking affected your life. Then we will comment if have anything that we think could benefit you. This a safe place.

Glad you joined us

dollydo

Welcome, you have taken the first step, share and read about others experiences.

We are here for you, we understand.

GingerM

Unless you're going to go to an ACoA/AlAnon meeting, I don't think there is one "right" place to start.

No, I'll correct myself. You've already found the right place to start: the right place to start is by admitting that your family of origins has left you with a whackload of baggage.

Then where to go from there? One piece of baggage at a time if you want, or for some folks, it works to open all the baggage at once (not many, mind you, but some). For me, I did one piece of baggage at a time. When I felt I had that stuff put away properly, then I started on the next piece.

Reading reading reading is good. Learning that there are plenty of people out there who understand is very helpful. Finding people who are walking the path to recovery is good.

Everyone takes a different path to recovery, and none of us are ever "recovered". We just keep plugging away at life, trying to find as much peace and joy as we can. Sometimes old things pop up, and we deal with them.

You're in a good spot right now. I know it doesn't feel like it, but think of how many people never realize that they carry issues with them and simply go on to perpetuate the cycle. You've already started. Now all you have to do is keep going.

Mracoa

Read the characteristics and bill of rights from the stickies. Pick the one or ones with the most meaning to you and do some more research on those. Reflect on why they jump out at you and what that means for you.

I hope you find what you are looking for.

MusicLanguage

bubblepop,

I recommend learning everything you can about codependency. Even though you may not be an alcoholic yourself, ACoAs become "para-alcohlics" meaning that we unconsciously carry over the alcoholic behaviors down from generations. A simple search on a book site will give you plenty of reading material. I hope that helps.