The question I have been afraid to ask myself and otherz...
 

Well...

When I decide to finally tell my Mom I am movin out and that I no longer want to be a contibuter to her alcoholic wayz...when do I return home? Do I return for holidayz? What if they all get ticked off and decide to make me the black sheep of the family? Do I ever go back?

I dunno what to think of it. Perhapz for the initial yearz I should stay away. But then as time goes on, maybe I will return for holidayz only....

ugh...who knowz...I should probably just cross that bridge when I get there.

~Def

Def,
You answered your own question. Take it one step at a time.
I am currently the black sheep of my family and I wear my black sheep jacket proudly. :p
Peace,
Gabe

I will wear mine too....BAH BAH!!!! lol

*hugz*

~Def

Def,
Black Sheep are way cool.
Just keep your focus on what you need to do for you, and not on what other people will think about it.
Peace,
Gabe

I can relate to being the black sheep. I am responsible for my family's unhappiness. Because I don't participate in the madness, I am "tearing the family apart". Sure I am! I visit when I want to visit. That is not much anymore. They only seem to get upset with me when I'm around, because I don't act the way they want. I used to be scared that I would be alone and lonely and insecure without my family's approval. I know now that they are there for me and I for them if we truly are in need. But they aren't capable of meeting my need for nurturing, security, or approval. I have to get those met in other people. Mostly people in my alanon meetings. Have you ever seen a whole herd of black sheep? That's us! Hugs, Magic

Re: The question I have been afraid to ask myself and otherz...
 

bah bah black sheep here. These days I just follow my gut on visits & answering the phone even. They ususally only call when they want something. Bah!! Bah!! BAH!! BAH!!