LeadHatter

in the book adult children of alcoholics it says how adult children of addicts [untreated presumably] judge themselves without mercy.

what i have just read and i relate to very hugely is that for some ACA's there is even an element of pleasure or comfort in judging ourselves negatively.

I think that i do this as my father used to sneer and do it to be. could be that this is some misplaced 'habit' or 'parenting thing' that i have picked up i don't know. but yes it feels comfortable i don't know why-probably the book will explain if i go on

thankyou soberrecovery.com and the ACA forum for letting me share

dollydo

Well, I don't judge myself, I question myself and at one time (B/4 Alanon & Councilling)
it was out of control and becoming a negative force in my life.

It was explained to me that all of the stress I had lived under for all of my years was the root of the compulsive questioning.

Don't really know if that is fact or not, all I know is that I am better, and to me, that's all that matters.

LeadHatter

Thanks for your response dolly