Lala03044

Hi,

I've been going to alanon for about 10 years. Up until this past year- I would only go to mtgs. sporadically. I only went when things got so bad. But this year, I've made the decision to attend 1- 3 times per week. And I have a sponsor.

There aren't any acoa meetings in my area.

I can't seem to break the pattern of isolation.
When I was little, no one talked about the chaos that was going on. So my way of "coping" was to shut down.

Why do I still do that today?
I can share @ meetings but not @ home. How sick is that?

love in alanon,

Laurie

Seren

Hi Laure, Welcome to SR!!!!!

I'm glad you found us. Maybe working the steps with your sponsor will break down that old habit of isolation. Make yourself comfortable and read around the boards!

Hugs, HG

tromboneliness

If we could talk about stuff at home, there would be no need for meetings!



Sounds like you're doing great. There is a phone ACA meeting every day at noon, but I've found that it's pretty intense, yet hard to get personal feedback (because people are conference-calling from all over the world, so it's a little chaotic at times).

There aren't a lot of ACA meetings -- here in RI, there are only 3 or 4 that I know of; fortunately two of them are within a mile of me. It's a much smaller fellowship than Al-Anon. Do you have the ACA big book? You can get it (as well as their workbook, which is great but pretty much requires a sponsor -- it's too intense to do alone, at least for me) directly from them at Welcome to Adult Children of Alcoholics - World Service Organization, Inc..

T

Lala03044

Thank you both for welcoming me to this forum.

I would like to check out the acoa call sometime. No, I don't have that acoa big book yet. Sounds like it would be good to have.

take care,