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londonvanpelt 12-10-2008 04:49 PM

Losing My Mind!
 
I was laid off my job about 6 months ago. I kept praying for HP to take me to a better place of work. I couldn't handle the drugs and pornography in the office. My boss laid me off and blamed it on me. Unemployment interviewed him and caught him in the lie. It was never my fault. I have been trying to make ends meet and take care of my child. It has been very difficult. I am so behind on everything. My ex does not pay child support, so I have only my income to provide for us. The landlord has just let me know that when my lease is up March 1st, he will be taking residence here so I have to find another place to live. I have 2 months to find a job and a new place to live. I can't take this anymore. I try so hard to keep us afloat, but the bottom is always dropping out. I don't know what to do. I am at a loss. I feel like God has abandoned me and doesn't care. I can't keep doing this anymore. I am soooo tired.

Theresa 12-10-2008 06:02 PM

London: Try to get a good night's rest tonight, maybe after a long, hot bath. Tomorrow always is better with a little rest.

Tomorrow start anew: make a plan for what you can do with that one day, only work (not worry) that one day. For example, get the paper or look online for jobs available in your area, and find out how to apply for each one. Then decide what steps you need to take that one day.

At the end of the day, treat yourself to another hot shower or bath, followed by a quick outline of the next day's plan. Just work on the one day.

Maybe this advice isn't what you need or right for you, but my thought is that being as tired as you are, and I really do understand how horrible it feels to be so overwhelmed, that maybe taking on just one day at a time might make your life feel more manageable.

Now I am going to take my own advice, and try to outline what I need to do for just one day to help make ends meet ; - ) We can get through this, one day at a time.

guiab 12-11-2008 12:21 PM

London,
I am seconding what Theresa said - You have to just do today what you can do today. It can be really overwhelming and frightening. Some things you can't do anything about, but you can control what you do. Keep looking for jobs - call, email, or just walk in to a place that is advertising for a job and hand deliver a resume. My advice may be inappropriate, but I am advocating the 'you never know' outlook. I got my current job through people I met at church. A good friend of mine got a dream job, and she really needed the money, running a gift store in a national park after she prayed for a whole day.

londonvanpelt 12-11-2008 06:40 PM

Thank you both so much. I just tried to keep the focus on just today and was invited to see an orchestra tonight. I ran into a friend of mine who is going to try to get me a job at her company. I didn't even bring it up. She asked me if I was working at the same company. HP must be working as long as I keep moving along. I even had a fun time this evening and shared a laugh with another parent. So, from the bottom of my heart thank you both so, so much!

Eleison 12-12-2008 11:52 AM

You deserve a safer and kinder place to work - maybe, painful as it is, this will give you the shift in the right direction to take care of yourself.


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