Adult Children of Alcoholic or Dysfunctional Families
 

Solutions List:

1.Dysfunctional and alcoholic families affect us
in three ways: mentally, physically and spiritually.
Our parents were the victims of these diseases,
which can end in insanity or death or, hopefully, recovery.
Learning about and understanding these conditions is-
the beginning of the gift of forgiveness.

2.We learn the three C's: we didn't cause it, we can't control it, and we can't cure it.

3. We learn to put the focus on ourselves and to be good
to ourselves.

4. We learn to detach with love, and to give ourselves and-
"tough love".

5. We use the recovery slogans, "Let go and let God",
Easy does It", One day at a Time", "Keep it simple" and-
"Live and let live", Using these slogans helps us to lead our
day-to-day lives in a new way.

6.We learn to acknowledge our feelings, to accept them, to
express them, and to build our self-esteem.

7.By working the 12 Steps, we learn to accept the disease,
we realize that our lives have become unmanageable,
and that we are powerless over the disease or the
alcoholic. As we become willing to admit our defects and
our sick thinking, we are able to change our attitudes
and to turn our reactions into positive actions.
By working the program and admitting that we are-
powerless, we eventually come to believe in the spirituality of the program - that there is a solution other than
ourselves: that is our group and our higher power - God-
as each of us understands him. By sharing our experience,
relating to others, welcoming newcomers and serving our-
groups, we build self-esteem.

8. We learn to love ourselves. Then we are able to love-
others, in a healthy way.

9. We have telephone therapy with people we relate to,
which is helpful at all times, not just when problems
arise.

10.By applying the Serenity Prayer to our daily lives,
we begin to change the sick attitudes we acquired in-
childhood.:atv

thanks for the reminders.....