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Old 12-04-2007, 10:30 PM
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Soberrecovery is a forum for those recovering from alcohol and substance abuse addictions and help for family and friends whos lives have been affected by someone else's addiction. Although we care about everyone and all the issues our members struggle with we feel that some topics can cause damage to those who are trying to recover on our forums. Posts with suicidal, sexual abuse, and sexual addiction content are too much of a trigger for some of our members and can trigger a relapse in recovery.

We will remove posts at our discretion that contain triggering content. Please do not take this as rejection. It is our way of protecting everyone here. If you are in crisis please call your physician, visit a hospital emergency room of call a hotline.

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I am shocked angered and upset by this but mostly disapointed. I have a slight fear too that my post will be removed but I hope it can be left as I believe its valid and I would be interested in hearing others opinions.

I find it offensive to my integrity because I believe that alcoholism is directly linked to sexual abuse in the majority of cases.

I feel saddened that sexual abuse has been marginalised as too taboo and shut away in secrecy, this adds to the shame of the survivor and also amkes it once again an "unspeakable" thing, this is a trigger for me. I dont understand the decision as i find it diseased.

Step 1. we admitted we were powerless over alcohol (other people places and things.

one cant walk around on eggshells afraid that their words or actions will trigger a relapse. we are not responsibile for the relapse of others. recovery for me is not about avoiding these topics but facing them with our recovery and examining them and lessening their powers. secrecy and silence breeds shame.

sexual abuse, sexual addiction/addictive behaviour and suicide are paramount parts of living with the disease of alcoholism not to mention that i myself have found DEEP healing on this forum for other issues but also these issues in a BIG way that ive got nowhere else.

i can understand that things on here would trigger. uve triggered me. meeting trigger, books, tv, work, a lot of things trigger. as you said..... If you are in crisis please call your physician, visit a hospital emergency room of call a hotline. i would add, read literature, go to a meeting, call a sponsor, call a friend, minister, lifeline. i find myself strongly opposed to the idea that marginalising these topics is of much benefit and more concerned about the harm in it. i think one can not read a post if it is too upsetting but ultimately responsibility for the trigger lies in the self and with the higher power. steps 1 and 2. big time. im doing a step 3 right now and handing this over. :day4 i would like to hear others thoughts on this and value if you woul not bar this thread.
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Old 12-04-2007, 11:18 PM
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I'm closing this one, because you have the identical post in Friends and Family. Further on down our rules list, it also states, cross-posting/flooding isn't allowed. (posting the same thing in multiple forums)

Here's the other one, which is still open to replies:

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post1589392
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