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GiveLove:I've noticed during this time that I've had some really cool, strong, and fun people just come up and talk to me for no reason. It's like I had a negative force-field keeping them away before !
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utopia, what a wonderful idea. I'm going to try it too! this will be a bit of a challenge as my favorite coworker's favorite topic of conversation is to complain about the others! I'll just have to set a good example for him I guess.
How's everyone's success going?
How's everyone's success going?
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mushroom,
The first 21 days were really hard! (fact, not complaint ) But the second haven't been as hard. I guess it's like anything....once you acquire the habit it's easier.....we'll see!
good luck,
GiveLove
The first 21 days were really hard! (fact, not complaint
) But the second haven't been as hard. I guess it's like anything....once you acquire the habit it's easier.....we'll see!good luck,
GiveLove
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Dunno. I posted an example from MY life, for what it's worth, above. A statement is constructive: this is happening, it isn't what I'd hoped for, and this is how I would like it to change (if it's something that can't change, like someone else's hammering, and you're STILL griping about it, that's a complaint)
But I'm just a little army of one. I guess everyone's different. The dividing line for me is inside, when I voice a complaint:
Hey, I hate this, somebody:
make it better for me
and/or feel sorry for me
and/or get mad with me
and/or hate the same people/things I do.
There's no thought of a solution, just the quest for attention and commiseration. I know when I'm doing it....hard to explain to somebody else though.
GL
But I'm just a little army of one. I guess everyone's different. The dividing line for me is inside, when I voice a complaint:
Hey, I hate this, somebody:
make it better for me
and/or feel sorry for me
and/or get mad with me
and/or hate the same people/things I do.
There's no thought of a solution, just the quest for attention and commiseration. I know when I'm doing it....hard to explain to somebody else though.
GL
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bravo give love, i am on day 3 again, lol. yes this is true.
now to be anal
state·ment /ˈsteɪtmənt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[steyt-muhnt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. something stated.
2. a communication or declaration in speech or writing, setting forth facts, particulars, etc.
3. a single sentence or assertion: I agree with everything you said except for your last statement.
4. Commerce. an abstract of an account, as one rendered to show the balance due.
5. an appearance of a theme, subject, or motif within a musical composition.
6. the act or manner of stating something.
7. the communication of an idea, position, mood, or the like through something other than words: The furniture in the room makes a statement about the occupant's love of color. Walking out of the meeting will be a statement of our refusal to submit.
8. Computers. an instruction or other elementary component in a high-level programming language.
com·plaint /kəmˈpleɪnt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[kuhm-pleynt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. an expression of discontent, regret, pain, censure, resentment, or grief; lament; faultfinding: his complaint about poor schools.
2. a cause of discontent, pain, grief, lamentation, etc.
3. a cause of bodily pain or ailment; malady: The doctor says I suffer from a rare complaint.
4. Law. the first pleading of the plaintiff in a civil action, stating the cause of action.
now to be anal
state·ment /ˈsteɪtmənt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[steyt-muhnt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. something stated.
2. a communication or declaration in speech or writing, setting forth facts, particulars, etc.
3. a single sentence or assertion: I agree with everything you said except for your last statement.
4. Commerce. an abstract of an account, as one rendered to show the balance due.
5. an appearance of a theme, subject, or motif within a musical composition.
6. the act or manner of stating something.
7. the communication of an idea, position, mood, or the like through something other than words: The furniture in the room makes a statement about the occupant's love of color. Walking out of the meeting will be a statement of our refusal to submit.
8. Computers. an instruction or other elementary component in a high-level programming language.
com·plaint /kəmˈpleɪnt/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[kuhm-pleynt] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun 1. an expression of discontent, regret, pain, censure, resentment, or grief; lament; faultfinding: his complaint about poor schools.
2. a cause of discontent, pain, grief, lamentation, etc.
3. a cause of bodily pain or ailment; malady: The doctor says I suffer from a rare complaint.
4. Law. the first pleading of the plaintiff in a civil action, stating the cause of action.
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maybe a little simpler.
to complain is to;
1. to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault: He complained constantly about the noise in the corridor.
2. to tell of one's pains, ailments, etc.: to complain of a backache.
to state is to:
19. to declare definitely or specifically: She stated her position on the case.
20. to set forth formally in speech or writing: to state a hypothesis.
21. to set forth in proper or definite form: to state a problem.
22. to say.
23. to fix or settle, as by authority.
so i gather that a statement is a declaration of something without any judgement behind it, a complaint is a negative perception of something that is being declared.
ie today is hot is a statement
but god its so bloody hot today isnt it!! or god i hate this heat is a complaint to me. but thats up to you in the end.
to complain is to;
1. to express dissatisfaction, pain, uneasiness, censure, resentment, or grief; find fault: He complained constantly about the noise in the corridor.
2. to tell of one's pains, ailments, etc.: to complain of a backache.
to state is to:
19. to declare definitely or specifically: She stated her position on the case.
20. to set forth formally in speech or writing: to state a hypothesis.
21. to set forth in proper or definite form: to state a problem.
22. to say.
23. to fix or settle, as by authority.
so i gather that a statement is a declaration of something without any judgement behind it, a complaint is a negative perception of something that is being declared.
ie today is hot is a statement
but god its so bloody hot today isnt it!! or god i hate this heat is a complaint to me. but thats up to you in the end.
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Oh, Utopia, you wonderful word geek (and I mean that as the most sincere compliment you can imagine!!!!! )
One thing I was startled by when I was traveling in Australia was how many Word Geeks I had the pleasure of hooking up with....in pubs, on beaches, on buses and boats (oops, I sound like Dr. Seuss).....
Two workmen arguing about the meaning of some obscure linguistic thing...hilarious...
Anyway, thanks for being WAY more articulate than I ever could about this!
GL, not complaining but making a LOT OF LOUD STATEMENTS
One thing I was startled by when I was traveling in Australia was how many Word Geeks I had the pleasure of hooking up with....in pubs, on beaches, on buses and boats (oops, I sound like Dr. Seuss).....
Two workmen arguing about the meaning of some obscure linguistic thing...hilarious...Anyway, thanks for being WAY more articulate than I ever could about this!
GL, not complaining but making a LOT OF LOUD STATEMENTS
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