Osier
My suggestion would be to give this relationship a little more space. If it's meant to be it will be, but if it isn't then you have breathing room.
Maybe go to the movies with someone who shares your enthusiasm, and don't cook for anyone who refuses to help clean up.
Osier, I guess I am tippy-toeing on egg shells here , too, but the way I see this man is someone who is totally into himself and not someone you can just relax and have fun with...don't talk in movies or when you are reading paper, you express your needs and he calls that insecure? Nope - he's too selfish.
You just deserve soooo much better. You are a QUEEN and anyone who treats you as less than that should be exiled to the nearest duckpond. And you can tell him I said so.:king:
Sending hugs and the tiara of adoration that you deserve to wear.