Hello All,
I am struggling with detachment. I am in a slightly similar situation as Rainy, only my A husband just started attending AA meetings. We have only just admitted to ourselves that he is an alcoholic. I am always interested in what he thinks and what is happeing to him, but he sometimes gets angry with me when I ask. I don't know what is safe and what makes him upset. I ask about the meetings because I want to know if he thinks they are beneficial for him. ( I really would like to ask if he plans on keeping in the program but we all know I can't ask that) If I can't be part of his road to recovery does that mean I won't be with him if or when he puts his life back together? He doesn't want to hear at all about me being here and talking to everyone about what's happening. So what's left for us but to heal apart..and what does that mean? Am I trying too hard? I don't know.
Its a battle.
Hug to all
Liz