Belief Change...
I was at lunch and I was trying to work out how to explain how I change my beliefs, so they help me instead of cause me grief. And it just: looking at evidence, fitting the belief to portray the evidence, and trying to follow my actions through.
I had this one sneek in at lunch, and using the technique above its been obliterated: my life is going nowhere. So, in my mind, I scanned the evidence, I really, really looked. And the belief changed to: my life is moving forward, and even if its not, its okay. I am okay.
And that technique, which I practice a couple a times a day when annoying beliefs come up, provides the emotional relief.
Hope that helps someone. Its classic CBT.
(And if my life, as it sometimes does, stalls - then I find a quick three year or five year plan just the remedy).
Thanks for listening, peace 5