Detachment is a wonderful thing
It took me years to learn it's value, and I am still a student in that class. Letting go of the things we've been clinging to for years is an aquired art form. Once you let go, it's a free fall experience. Suddenly, you are not "required" (by your internal law) to grasp onto things that you can't control. You just let go of them, like helium balloons, and watch them float away.
Homework:
Go to your local helium balloon store and buy five or six balloons. (More if you need them). You'll need a black magic marker too, so buy that while you are out; if you don't already have one. Make sure that you get the balloons with the little plastic weights on the bottom of the ribbons. When you get home, write one thing on each balloon that you need to detach from or let go. Take your balloon bundle outside and set those suckers free one by one. Say goodbye to them as they float away.
"Goodbye resentment" (Launch a balloon)
"Goodbye controlling behavior" (Launch another one)
"Goodbye worrying things I can't control." (Laugh as that one floats away.)
This is really theraputic and it doesn't cost you much. It's also a whole lot of fun.
Peace,
Gabe