Originally Posted by Morning Glory
[*]Immobilize you. You can become so overcome by the fear of doing, acting, saying, or being ``wrong'' that you eventually collapse, give in, and choose inactivity, silence, and the status quo.
this one really stuck out for me. the PERFECTIONISM bug. noticing thats why my room gets messy so quick and self-care is so hard beacause deep withing is this desire for perfection...
the word RESPONISIBILITY seems to be jumping out too. i think responsibilities are blurred in dysfunctional families and a lot of shite is placed on children particularly.
this made adulthood hard when i had to be responsible for myself and my own actions against myself and others, thats why the step 4 was so healing in that i learnt AWARENESS of other ways of doing things, how i did things, how emeshed i was with family members and that the guilt covered a deep heaving grief in realising the full extent of powerlessness over others.
