I live alone so I don't have to lie to anyone, only myself in that my consumption levels were ok (yeah right, lol). When I'd built up a huge overdraft that I can't afford I had to stop.
I've been truthful with my doctor etc and sought out appropriate help. But then I've been in weekly counselling for four years so honesty and integrity are important to my healing in general and I don't feel judged in the counselling room - that's so important to my process anyway. This time it was a relapse after two years sober - maybe that's different too.
Have you seen When a Man Loves A Woman with Meg Ryan? It's an interesting movie, a bit of a role reversal but you might find it interesting, it covers the alcoholic lying/scheming thing.
I feel for you, I know how hard this can be to be on the other end too.