Originally Posted by 23girl
I have never been to an Al-anon meeting... what are they like?
She always says she is my mom and she took care of me for 30 years and I should be more tolerant and take care of her... but I don't feel like that is my job... am I wrong?
I feel like were having a private chat here :-)
There's a sticky at the top of the forum that talks about what goes on at Al-Anon meetings. I recommend them because they work for me. It's suggested you try 6 before making up your mind, and that was true in my case. I have found it so helpful to have face to face interaction with people who understand what is happening in my life.
Are you wrong? No, I don't think so. Like all of us, your mom has to take care of herself, first. I've learned there is a huge difference between caring and taking care of, especially where an addiction is involved.
I'm sure other posters will be along who have been in your situation. I've seen quite a few here who have dealt with alcoholic parents. Keep posting and remember to take care of yourself.