Originally Posted by brdlvr
But it's like the chicken or the egg. What do I focus on - my dependency on alcohol or my dependency on the X?
It's pretty difficult to look at things with clarity (and separate eggs) if your mind and body are influenced by chemicals. Becoming sober is only the first, but essential, step in the much larger recovery of becoming a whole human being -- which will also address any relationship addiction issues. Keep up AA -- the rest will follow.