Originally Posted by TexasGirl
I want to decide how I want to live my life, what I spend my time doing, etc. Any ideas?
I can certainly understand what you mean. I lived with insanity for way too long and didn't know any other way. I'm still figuring out a lot of things, and I don't know if I would be able to do that if I had stayed with my husband.
Having said that, I admire you for asking these questions. Maybe you could start by looking at how you spend your time. Not work, but free time. What things do you do because you want to, and what things do you do because you are arranging your life around your A? What things would you like to do, but don't because of him? I think if you start with the little things, like maybe what music you listen to, or what you have for dinner, then it will lead to the bigger, more important things.
Also, getting back to the therapist might help, especially if you are willing to ask the questions and look at yourself.
I wish you the best.
L