Originally Posted by highlight
He has said there is no rule and he will contine to sponsor them wheather I am uncomfortable or not.
That, to me, is a HUGE red flag right there. This is his way of saying that he has absolutely no regard for your feelings. If things were really on the up and up, he would at the least let you meet these women. I dated a recovering drug and alcohol addict several years ago, and he actually invited me on a couple of twelve-steps (with other men). I was so impressed with him, for letting me into that part of his life.
Here's a hint: Is his reaction towards you different in relation to his male sponsorees than these female ones?
If what you mean by the Sex Idol step is what I've been referred to as the 13th Step, he needs to be pulled aside and had a talk with. This is dangerous territory, and he is jeopardizing not only the women's recovery, but also the mens and his own.
I wonder what would draw people to such a cad?
There's my 2 cents.