Hi again Moot,
Geesh... this would be so much easier if we could all just sit down and have coffee together LOL. :p
Sorry about assuming you were male, guess I fit the stereotype more than I thought.
Anyhoo, I STILL feel very adament about your partner having to smoke OUTSIDE. I just think it is ridiculous that she wouldn't be able to understand what a health risk she is putting you in... but I can't claim to understand everybody, and their intentions. We all know how much of that smoke DOESN'T stay in the room she is smoking in, no matter how many fans you have going. If this is as much of an issue to you as it sounds, TELL her how you feel!
AND.... I wanted to make sure I gave you some praise on how you are handling all of this. You are not just someone who lives with a smoker... you are a recovering addict, and you've done so well! Make sure to get out of the house (if you can) and allow some peace to set in for YOU.
Take care
Meg