CoDA
You are so right about codependency being a crucial issue. I've been a member of CoDA (codependents anonymous) for several years. The meetings are great, and I would encourage anyone to attend or even start a meeting in your area. The site is codependents.org and there is quite a bit of literature and news about events around the country.
To update about my A (my son). He is doing weekend community service in NYC. This is a view of the legal system that is not what I wanted to see. The community service consists of cleaning up a park! Where are the people who know ANYthing? I am discouraged at this point, and am anxious about what I can (& can't) do. I must add that I am doing so much better since I am aware that I HAVE A LIFE apart from what my son (or anyone else) is doing in theirs. I have the program to thank for that!
Hugs to you all.
Msmom