yingyang (I really like that screen name)
First let me say "WELCOME to this site". It's a great place with wonderful caring people all with different experiences, yet the same, and with one common goal as a whole. It's a perfect place to purge, ask questions, and share.
My heart goes out to you. Going to the meetings is a good idea. It may be more worth while if you could find a sitter for the little ones, but that's just my opinion.
Speaking as the one with the problem, I know now I put the ones that cared about me through hell. There was not a whole lot they could do - my alcohol abuse was something I had to learn to be honest about, decide for myself about and accept - my family couldn't do it for me.
I understand you love your husband and want him to be sober. Ultimately, accepting he has a problem and wants a life of sobriety has to come from him.
I'm sure the other caring people on this site will be posting there welcomes and will be providng better information shortly.
Just stay strong - post and purge as much as you need to here.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
God bless