Sorry, I'm following you
Again I have to say how deeply these posts affect me; I just read the one on guilt and realised the family scapegoat was me. This of course went hand in hand with the shame, rage and self-defeating behavhiour.
I also realize I have to stay away from them as the patterns-being accused of shameful behaviour( the fact of having my having simple boundaries and needs ) starts the cycle. Actually, just yesterday, I had a scene with my sister; she's going through a crisis and "triggered" me, to be able to justify her subsequent shaming.
what to do but stay away-because my recovery and
serenity is so threatening to my family, it's constantly being "triggered".
sigh.
I will continue to follow. And thanks so very much.
tiger