Yeah, it seems like all alcoholics/addicts like to make you think you are overreacting to their problems and like you are the one with the problem. My alcoholic exbf used to act the same way when I would get pissed at him for getting drunk or using. Even though he wasn't the physically or verbally abusive alcoholic, I'm still glad I never lived with/or married him. As it was it was stressful enough for me just worrying if he was going to be all hung over when I went over to visit him or if he was going to hook up with one of his druggie friends and start using again. Plus he just wasn't very honest with me about certain things either.