Welcome Henny.
I'm with matters. Save your energy. If he's been to AA he knows all about pink clouds and relapses and the like. There's nothing wrong with telling him where you stand, but trying to tell him where he stands probably won't get you anywhere.
Have you considered finding an alanon group in your area, or perhaps CoDA (codependents anonymous) or ACOA (adult children of alcoholics)? You are not alone and it sometimes help to hear how other people are coping with similar problems.
Scream away... primally or however.
Keep posting.
Hugs,
Smoke