Hi Henny and welcome to the board!
I think we have all been in the position of wanting to SCREAM at one time or another concerning our loved ones with drinking problems. Coming here to vent is a great alternative.
He is going to do what he wants no matter what you say or do Henny. Save your energy and focus on yourself!!!
Read the sticky posts at the top of the Al-anon and Nar-anon boards! They are full of great info! Barbiedebs daily posts are really helpful too.
Take care of you and keep coming back,
matters