Steph!!!
I hear that!!!
Sorry I am not strong enough to talk about this right now.
But, yeah, our main family rule was "don't upset your mother"
It's like "Is she 5 years old?!?!?!?!" y'know?
I break the rule. The others get mad at me for it.
But one of the first things I was required to do when I first went in counseling was to write her and tell her my boundaries and that I would not accept those violations.
After several years of trying to force some understanding and growth...I decided it was not my job and I do not want to raise my mother.
At the same time, I have to fight my way out of being pushed into the old roles....
even if it means I am the scapegoat!!!
live