Oh do I ever! My mother has been sober 26 years. She lives 4 hours away. When she comes to visit, I get depressed, sick and miserable. The Alchoholic behavior is still there with the controlling, and you don't love me bit.
I bite my lip most of the time. I do respect her. I have had to tell her that I am now a grandmother! I don't need to be treated like a 2 year old.
I do try to have a good relationship with her, and love her very much. I am still working on the getting sick when she comes over thing. It's hard. I hate having to talk to her in a way I feel is disrespectful. Oh well, if I don't she will walk all over me.