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Tombplant 
thank you for this. Do you mean that he is still not sober yesterday when he said he can’t commit and all of that to me suddenly? He went to detox again Saturday, and has been in the hospital since Sunday evening now (off the drugs). I am hurting, incredibly hard. I just want to go to the hospital and visit him like I planned, but after that exchange I would feel so pathetic and stupid to.
Thank you for the book suggestion.
May i suggest something you don't sound middle aged you sound like your in your 20s like my daughter, whilst he is working on himself, you go and work on you whether it be self esteem issues or self worth/self love confidence in yourself because you are worth so much more than this