Thanks for your reply Trailmix! I want to say he treats me well, but between reading your reply and the post about "who they really are," as well as reading through other posts on this site, I'm thinking that's irrelevant now. I joined an online dating site back in the fall with the intention of meeting someone with who I could have a sober first kiss and a healthy relationship because I've never had either. I couldn't have landed farther from the mark
I made an appointment with a therapist to sort through this with a professional and I've looked into Al-Anon groups in my area. None of the Al-Anon groups are nearby but they have some online options and I will check them out next week.