My light bulb moment
Hi Everyone
The answer for me was in these two steps of the 12 steps of Alanon.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove these defects of character.
and. .
7. Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
I realized it wasn't really up to me I just had to be ready for God to do His work. It was a powerful realization and again just confirms the gentleness of the program.
Blessings Mo