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Old 11-25-2022, 06:47 AM
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Eauchiche
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Dear Ruby
I am SO sorry for what brings you here. There is no pain like you describe. As others have posted, this seems to be a common occurrence. In AA, they sarcastically refer to it as the "13th step."

In my case, the caring about my ex was the only "white knuckle" thing about my recovery. Giving up alcohol was a snap by comparison. It took years for me to get past the feelings.

Today we rarely see each other. When we do, it is a comfortable interaction. I know to go before "happy hour" starts.

Hang in there. Focus on YOU. Work your program. Come here for support. Find a good AlAnon meeting in your area.
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