CaliGirl.......there is a chance that he was high or buzzed when he messaged you. Under the influence, people do things that don't make sense and often do things that are really outrageous. It is such a fool's errand for the non-addicted to try to understand the workings of a damaged mind. The usual rules of logic cannot br applied.
As an example, I remember one situation that was reported, on this forum, where an intoxicated person tried to give CPR to some road kill.----and, didn't even remember it, afterward.