Curmudgeon, Electrical Engineer, Guitar God Wannabe
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: Where the mighty arms of Atlas hold the heavens from the Earth
Posts: 3,403
Jason...
I'm really sorry that you're going through this, and you have more than your fair share on your plate. Addiction and how it impacts a marriage is a tough, tough thing to deal with without injury. With that in mind, I can't in good conscience tell you how to deal with her. What I will advise you to do, however, is educate yourself as to what you're up against, and to do what is necessary to protect your children. A lot of us here have been through the wars, so it's a good idea to read as much as you can here and get an idea of what you're in for. Do as much self care as you can. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. This isn't a time for wishful thinking, or denial. You have to buckle up for a bumpy ride, and there may come a day that you'll have to make some decisions you don't want to make.
Be smart. Be steady. Lean on us whenever you need to.