After I had been in recovery for a few years, my wife confided in me that she although she was all in favor of me going to rehab in the early days, she was also scared that when I did go to rehab and sobered up that I would discover that I wasn't in love with her. Nothing could be further from the truth, I am still in love with her a few decades later.
I get a message from the therapist - Samantha doesn't want to call today, she wants to focus on herself and needs time to process.
I can relate to this, as early on I really needed to spend my time and energies on myself because if I didn't learn to love and care for myself, how could possibly really and sincerely love and care for someone else.