Two things come to mind:
1. I have come to conclude that there is a type of alcoholic who can only stay sober by fully committing to the program of recovery set forth in Alcoholics Anonymous. I am one of those alcoholics. PM me if you want to chat more about that.
2. A perhaps relevant quote from the Big Book: "Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job - wife or no wife - we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God. Burn the idea into the consciousness of every man that he can get well regardless of anyone. The only condition is that he trust in God and clean house."