In me, I can genuinely give from a place of freedom and love, as well as from a place of feeling superior.
It is my motive at the time I need to look at. Am I doing it from a healthy place or toxic place.
Same with receiving, is it coming from a place of love and kindness or does it have heavy chains attached to it that the person is going to later use. This being my experience in childhood, everything had a nasty price attached to it. Eg - 1972 I did ........ for you, therefore you owe me! Eye roll.