Originally Posted by
fauxfern 
II feel foolish not understanding this. I feel angry at myself for not knowing this sort of thing.
How would you know unless you had experienced it, or had a close friend or relative who was an alcoholic, or had confided in you? People who haven't experienced it don't know the signs, and people who have can spot them a mile away. For instance, another alcoholic knew my husband was one, and only met him a few times over the years.. There are several people (family and friends) who I suspect are addicted. I don't live with them, but I'm a pretty good guesser. One is a relative of my Current Guy. He should be about the age of CG, but looks at least ten years older, and Current tells me it isn't unusual for relative to drink a couple cases of beer a weekend. I think that sounds problematic but current guy says, oh no, he hasn't got a problem. I suspect his relative's ex-wives think otherwise.