Thank you so much trailmix. I followed your link and explored the posts---it was definitely informative! I will continue to read there as well as here. As I said, I am new to this forum so all direction is welcome.
Your thoughts on boundaries are enlightening. I've come to realize that I've been codependent my entire life, so I am trying to break those chains but it is truly all I know. As such, I sincerely appreciate your gentle correction. Not making threats or setting rules or expectations that I can't or won't back up is something I have given a great deal of thought to and I think after reading your words, I need to give some additional thought to setting boundaries in the same way I set those rules. I'm not honestly sure what that is going to look like at this moment but I want and need to find out how that looks for my own sanity and well-being.
Thanks so much for taking the time
