You are doing it! Getting up, getting stuff done, taking care of yourself, maintaining all the boundaries you've set . . . it's hard when you're no longer numb and feeling all the feels. And you have to feel them, that's part of being human. Letting go of the feelings once you've sat with them, that's harder, but you're doing it. The difference is that you know your boundaries, your side of the road, and you're respecting yourself.
It's a hard place to be -- it's where I am right now. But we get to choose, we get to choose every moment.