I remember dating sites after I was widowed. One fellow wrote that he "wanted someone to intuit his feelings."
I read that as, "Do all the work in the relationship and accept the fact I'll dump you and you'll be at fault for not being clairvoyant." Sometimes the drinking is a symptom of the problem, but not the *whole* problem.
Transcendent love? For someone over the age of 13, pretty ridiculous. But a great excuse to end it - to be used again and again.