Looplou ...Thanks for ur reply...I was thinking of going to an al-anon meeting but have felt kind of ashamed to go...I too have had problems with eating disorders...I dunno if that is a product of alcoholic parents but I have never really admitted that to anyone.. I guess I never connected the two until now...I guess I just have to find a councelor I like and I am just frustrated cuz I feel like I am never going to be a normal person..and will never have a normal relationship or concept of myself...anyways im rambling...thanks alot for caring enough to leave advice and best of luck with all your problems